I can't be the only one to have done this before can anyone shed some light on how to go about it and not end up with a total nightmare situation. My son is wanting to come back after college to join my business, we've hashed this over plenty and not sure how to go about it or when to do it. I've always wanted him to go off first to see just how things are out in the world to then know maybe dense dads not so bad to work for, he's had a job working part time during the school year and full time during the summer for an implement dealership as a mechanic, which is what he's wanting to do, pull wrenches that is, but as he grew up he's also an excellent equipment operator, better than that even in my opinion and he's smart enough to go onto bigger and better things, like engineering or a teaching position or really whatever he wanted to do, but this is his chosen path so I stood by and was supportive. He's wanting to come back and pull wrenches for me and also run a shop out of our operation along with being an operator during the season and help take our business to the next level, which could be a really good thing, I'm wanting this to become a reality, just not sure how to go about it and keep things moving forward.
We've discussed him keeping his current job but limiting his hours to either 3 or 4 work days and then come to work for me on his off days, the current employeer is wanting to hire him full time and then some, as many hours as he wants in fact and has offered him somewhat of a generous wage to keep him. He doesn't like it there and they haven't treated him the best so far, but like I told him get used to it, every job has its downside and problem areas, just different problems with every new job that comes along. We've also talked about hiring him fulltime right out of school, the problem with him keeping his current job and working for me is they are 3 hours apart and he's tired of driving, which I can understand. We've also discussed him finding a part time job pulling wrenches around here and working for me part time as well. I guess whats bothering me is to hire him right out of college and we gear towards that and then later he "thinks" the grass is greeener somewhere else and leaves me hang with an expanded business and then I'm forced to either downsize or deal with hired help, neither of which I'm too keen on doing.
We've always tried to help our kids but so far thats backfired big time and come around to bite us in the ass, with this son, I'd truely like to see come back and either work part time, full time or be a partner someday or even take it over, none of the rest of my kids are really interested, so how do you do it without losing a son over the deal. My wife is wanting him to come back as well, even pushing pretty hard for it in fact, I get that but how to make that transition to the next step and how to avoid the pitfalls that are to come?
We've discussed him keeping his current job but limiting his hours to either 3 or 4 work days and then come to work for me on his off days, the current employeer is wanting to hire him full time and then some, as many hours as he wants in fact and has offered him somewhat of a generous wage to keep him. He doesn't like it there and they haven't treated him the best so far, but like I told him get used to it, every job has its downside and problem areas, just different problems with every new job that comes along. We've also talked about hiring him fulltime right out of school, the problem with him keeping his current job and working for me is they are 3 hours apart and he's tired of driving, which I can understand. We've also discussed him finding a part time job pulling wrenches around here and working for me part time as well. I guess whats bothering me is to hire him right out of college and we gear towards that and then later he "thinks" the grass is greeener somewhere else and leaves me hang with an expanded business and then I'm forced to either downsize or deal with hired help, neither of which I'm too keen on doing.
We've always tried to help our kids but so far thats backfired big time and come around to bite us in the ass, with this son, I'd truely like to see come back and either work part time, full time or be a partner someday or even take it over, none of the rest of my kids are really interested, so how do you do it without losing a son over the deal. My wife is wanting him to come back as well, even pushing pretty hard for it in fact, I get that but how to make that transition to the next step and how to avoid the pitfalls that are to come?