Its been a while but I'm back to update.
Truckecm verified that the ecm had no communication. They said they suspected it was the memory chip, but they didn't have any to replace it, and there was no guarentee that there weren't other issues with it.
I ended up going with a tested good used ecm from them. They wouldn't accept my dead ecm as a core, all in it was slightly cheaper than getting a reman from cummins. The ecm they sent has a broken clip to secure the 4pin power connector, I wasn't happy about it but I secured the plug another way and made it work. Truck is now back up and running. I wish I knew for sure what killed the previous ecm just for my peace of mind.
Since I got the original ecm back I opened it up and took a pic inside for those that are curious.