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RIP My Sweet Girl

Discussion in 'Gone But Not Forgotten' started by typ4, Oct 6, 2020.

  1. funwithfuel

    funwithfuel Senior Member

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    Sorry for your loss. I can't say anything to ease your pain. Make sure you and your wife are open with each other. I suspect you'll need one another like never before. Again, very sorry.
     
  2. Welder Dave

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    I'm sure she's looking down and thanking you for everything you've done. Try to take comfort that she is at peace and is no longer suffering. So sorry for your loss.
     
  3. AllDodge

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    Sorry for your loss. May the merrories of the past help replace the pain of the present very soon
     
  4. RTSmith

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    Prayers to you and yours. You never get "over" losing a child, but it does eventually get easier to accept. Hang in there.
     
  5. typ4

    typ4 Well-Known Member

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    Thank you all for the kind words.
    Being a good mechanic, I am devastated I couldnt fix this. I finally stopped beating myself up about that. May sound strange but by Damn I was put on earth to fix things. I have failed.
    And She is pain free. The only blessing I can find. I couldnt believe the amount of meds She was on before hospice and still in agony.

    If I sound angry and confused,I am, and My awesome wife is too. We are there for each other as someone mentioned.
    Thanks Again All
     
  6. Tarhe Driver

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    Typ4, I can't imagine your pain, but just consider for a moment that you did not fail. When the bird flies free, as we wish for all our children, its direction is totally up to its own decision and the wind. We can't control the wind.

    God bless you all,

    Neill
     
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    I am so very sorry! I've lost many family members to cancer.

    Please don't consider yourself a failure for not being able to fix her. Think of it this way, someone loves her enough to call her up sooner than we feel she should have gone.
     
  8. 56wrench

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    my sincere and heartfelt condolences
     
  9. oldtanker

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    WOW, I don't know what to say. One of my brother in laws is going through the same thing. My nephew, 33, wasn't feeling well. Told his dad I'm going in to get check out. Stopped by Wal Mart on the way in. Collapsed in the parking lot and died. This was less than 2 weeks ago. Services are tomorrow. He is absolutely devastated. No idea as to the cause of death. All they know is that drugs and booze was not involved. I will have you and your wife in my thoughts tomorrow as we bury my nephew. A parent should never have to burry a child.

    Rick
     
  10. Willie B

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    I live in a small world.

    I wired a new $1,000,000 house in 2001 for a couple. Move in day, the wife announced she wanted a divorce. Husband never did move in. He lived in a trailer on the edge of the property.
    Ex wife eventually bought a derelict house, I wouldn't want my mother in law to live in. Massive tear down, total rebuild. I wired it.

    Ex husband found a new wife, bought a house 40 miles away, minor renovation. I wired it.

    That marriage fell through. New wife got the new house. Ex husband started over, built a new house near the first. I wired it.

    Over the years, he became a friend. Meanwhile, their two sons were a little older & a little younger than my youngest son. They were in school together. Our paths crossed often, I got to a level of not being surprised when one of the boys was at my table.

    After high school they all drifted apart. A couple years later, the younger son was found dead. Autopsy found only traces of marijuana. Plenty of alcohol, but not lethal levels. Parents were devastated! Your son is dead, an autopsy can't say why. 20 is too young to die. His parents will never know why he died. I've lost touch with the mother, the father's life is in a bigger mess than ever before.
     
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    I am so sorry for your loss Typ4.
     
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    I'm a little late neighbor, but still I have shed more than a few tears as I read through this thread, as much for the outpouring of empathy from rough men as anything. I can feel your pain in your words, and I am sorry this happened to you. One of the hundreds of any good parent's worst nightmares this. I started late and my little girl is not quite twelve. I worry I won't be here long enough to protect her from the things I can do something about. I hate that she has to learn that Daddy's are not perfect, are not invincible, and can't fix everything that's broken. We can't fix what doctors can't fix, and that's not our fault, though we try to carry that burden with us. As you say, she is at peace, and without pain. I pray for you and your wife the same things, in this life.
     
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    I am so sorry to hear this.
    My wife of 22 years just passed away this May also. She was a strong 58 year old angel.
    I miss her dearly, not a day goes by I don't cry with sorrow and anger.
    And like you, I feel an emptiness that just won't leave me.
    Life can be cruel, as you said, some things just can't be fixed,
    My advice to you and your lovely wife,...
    Don't be to hard on yourselves...I wish I could tell you time will heal, but I know better.
    I wish I could say, keep the faith but again,
    Rick
     
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  14. Spud_Monkey

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    Lost a brother who was 20 yrs old when I was 17 yrs old to cancer on same day as Columbine shooting, forever reminded as the victims of that shooting. Ever since that day I’ve used it as reason to live the fullest cause you never know when it’s your time. It’s been 21 yrs since that day and can say I have lived those years more full and done more in life than the average twice my age and then some. You will never forget her and so I say use that anger/rage to do more with your life and help those around you do more. Sometimes the smallest things are the biggest things to someone.
     
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