I think that "clunk" you hear when engaging reverse is nothing to do with the torque converter, because if it was you would hear it when you engage forward speeds also. The torque converter is working all the time the engine is running.
I'm still not happy about the fact that you apparently have to jiggle the transmission control more than once to get any gear to enage, but despite that voltages at the solenoids and correct coil resistances seem to indicate that power is getting to the transmission clutch control valves.
Have you tried switching the #2 reverse solenoid valve with one of the others, maybe #5 or #6.?
If that doesn't work then my opinion is that something is likely broken inside the transmission on the reverse clutch countershaft. The power flow down through the transmisison goes via two totally different paths depending on whather the FWD low clutch (Ref #4) or the REV clutch (Ref #23) is engaged.