Before I disconnect mine, I shut the machine off. Then turn key back on, and toggle the park switch. Then I can cycle the aux hyd control, and relieve/equalize pressure before disconnecting which will make it easier to reconnect next time. When the grapple is parked, plug the lines together- it equalizes any pressure changes, and keeps them cleaner. And like was said above, if you just can't get it- crack a line on the grapple to release the pressure. Especially happens to me is disconnect in cold weather and then it sits a while, and I try and connect in hot weather.