Welder Dave
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Talked about a will in the past but never really did anything. I'm old enough I should have one and with my current severe back pain issues was thinking about it more. I don't have my own kids but have some nieces and nephews. The nephew from my brother has never really talked to me even after I've sent birthday and Christmas gifts. He was quite young at the time but even when I phoned to talk to him, my brother would say he doesn't want to talk right now. (my sisters kids used to run to the phone when I called) I just sent him a pretty nice Christmas present. I think some (maybe all) of it is my brother and his wife's doing. My brother feels hard done by because my dads will specified I had the first option to buy out my other siblings of the acreage (10 acres). I lived there most of the time my dad was alive and did most of the work there. My brother thought I was getting special treatment. Everything was evenly divided and if I chose to buy out the other siblings, it would be based on 2 appraisals. My other sisters had no problem with this at all.
One sister is a half sister (on dad's side) but haven't talked to her or her kids since my dads funeral. She was always super nice though and said what ever price is decided is fine as it's still an unexpected gift ( for lack of a better term).
Other sister I get along good with and a couple years ago her kids begged me to come and visit them, which I did. Her son is dealing with some issues and after my sister talked to him he texted a thanks for his birthday gift. I called my niece who just turned 17 to wish her a happy birthday. I didn't send a gift because I wasn't working but have on other B day's and at Christmas. I called my sister and she said my niece tried to text me but I never received anything. I called my sister again and she said I should try calling my niece. My sister uses the excuse that she's a teenager and has other stuff going on. I recently found out my niece isn't at home much and stays at a friends place. Sister wouldn't say much more than that.
My question is how much I should will to nieces and nephews that can't take 2 minutes to call and thank me for remembering their B Day's and sending gift's at Christmas? I'm not rich but do have several hundred thousand in assets. My partner says I'm being too harsh if I cut them out of some or all of their inheritance. My feeling is why should they get a substantial inheritance when they can't be bothered to at least give a call a couple times a year. Anybody else have a similar dilemma or thoughts on the subject?
One sister is a half sister (on dad's side) but haven't talked to her or her kids since my dads funeral. She was always super nice though and said what ever price is decided is fine as it's still an unexpected gift ( for lack of a better term).
Other sister I get along good with and a couple years ago her kids begged me to come and visit them, which I did. Her son is dealing with some issues and after my sister talked to him he texted a thanks for his birthday gift. I called my niece who just turned 17 to wish her a happy birthday. I didn't send a gift because I wasn't working but have on other B day's and at Christmas. I called my sister and she said my niece tried to text me but I never received anything. I called my sister again and she said I should try calling my niece. My sister uses the excuse that she's a teenager and has other stuff going on. I recently found out my niece isn't at home much and stays at a friends place. Sister wouldn't say much more than that.
My question is how much I should will to nieces and nephews that can't take 2 minutes to call and thank me for remembering their B Day's and sending gift's at Christmas? I'm not rich but do have several hundred thousand in assets. My partner says I'm being too harsh if I cut them out of some or all of their inheritance. My feeling is why should they get a substantial inheritance when they can't be bothered to at least give a call a couple times a year. Anybody else have a similar dilemma or thoughts on the subject?
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