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Help with father

BCOWANWHEELS

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my dad was ex army 101st airborne in ww2, he made me walk the chalk,taught me respect and for others and manners along with dicipline.
at the time i thought boy he is tough on me and why ? other folk said boy your dad is a tough nut to crack i feel sorry for you... but then life comes on strong and everything my dad taught me i needed and the dicipline laid the foundation for me being self employed successifully since may of 78. he taught me the value if a hand shake and to look everyone straight in the eyes, always give respect even to those who do not deserve it as they might not have had a good example set for them to follow so it must be you ! also with what dad taught me I got accepted into the U.S.ARMYS special forces trainning program "OFF THE STREET" AFTER BEING INTERVIEWED BY THEM...... what a honour, I never told them about my dad and what he done from south africa to berlin being wounded, getting frozen feet on and on and never quitting. it truely was a honour to have him as my dad. he died while i was in SF school. he was going to come pin my jump wings on me 2 weeks after he died. dads have the job of tough love of they do there job and tough love is real love.
jmo
bob
 

Jim D

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Seems strange that after 3 weeks and 21 replies, #1 tylr still hasn't responded, maybe he was just having a bitch.

I don't mind if it was just a "bitch" by him. Seem like it is a good thing that he started the thread.

BOCANWHEELS, bob, I envy you, what your father taught you; I was 35 years old before I learned to tell the truth, and look someone straight in the eyes... it was a long time learning, for me.
 

toddcat955L

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Maybe #1 tylr just went ahead and built another building or shop in the last 3 weeks, and all is GOOD on the home front!!!!!
 

grandpa

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I don't mind if it was just a "bitch" by him. Seem like it is a good thing that he started the thread.

BOCANWHEELS, bob, I envy you, what your father taught you; I was 35 years old before I learned to tell the truth, and look someone straight in the eyes... it was a long time learning, for me.

At least you made it b4 the end!!! Good Job. Its something to be proud of.
 

DMiller

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My Dad was abusive to me in my early years, according to my older brother who had to watch the incidents unfold, he was a controlled drinker until he retired when he fell into a bottle to never come out. Only saving grace was Mom died before too long with him there, we had to deal with him as he moved to a assisted living center and his odd, bad habits. Dad never had aspirations of farm or farm life or doing anything more than sitting drunk in a recliner retired and crapping himself, had seen it in his youth and had no intnention of returning, hated the thought of me going there but accepted it. He had been abusive, I watched him repay that to a higher power until he died and felt sorry for him, out of my family I believe I was the only one sorry to lose him.
 

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HELLO- #1 tylr, are you still out there? I've been curious as I'm sure we all have, what machine did your father buy? After all the replies to your {Thread**, I think we all may deserved to see a PIC of this machine that is taking up a little space in your life,and may be giving OLD POP a little enjoyment working on it . You said in your opening{Thread** it was a very old 955, is it a K or L or what. All these replies have let out some very personal feeling, that may be a good thing. Anyway was just wondering what machine this is all about!!!!
 

tctractors

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This thread has turned out very humbling in all replies, I am happy that tylr started it also fairly happy that he has not replied, as its the sort of subject that runs and ends in so many differing ways, when my Father Died the Family were all around him, I stayed with him till ever bit of warmth had left his Body, when its bitter cold out working I put on his old Jacket, its mighty warm and keeps out the Blast well, in the pockets there is still all the bits and ends that he placed in them, shoe laces, stumpy pencil, little nuts and washers also bits of paper with his hand script on them, I get these oddments in my hand, look at them then place them back into the pocket they came from, I always seem to work harder with this jacket on my back, every time I worked with my Father it was a Nectar Day.
 

grandpa

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I know exactly where your coming from here TC. My dads been dead 6 years now... I've kept his 99 Ford super duty locked up with the keys kept in my pocket. Every year I get it out and drive.... I can still smell him in there. Call us crazy... maybe, but we had fathers to look up too. Thanks for posting your view on the subject.
 

oldtanker

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Would kinda like to know what happened.

My dad was pretty hard on me growing up. By todays standards he was abusive. WWII Vet, served until 1971 on an artificial leg from WWII, retired at the highest enlisted grade when I was 16 with 31 years active duty. Butt kicked as needed, respect your elders, dress in decent clothing, want a car earn one. As a teen we did not get along. Seemed nothing was good enough for him. Get all B's and he would be mad cause the were not all A's. But I was man enough at 18 to marry a girl I got pregnant, raise a family of 6 kids with her, to serve 20 years in the Army and do a lot of things I always wanted to do. Never been arrested nor has any of my 6 kids. By the time dad passed in 88 we had a great relationship. When I started acting like a man dad treated me like a man. Sure even as an adult he held me to a higher standard but it was all good. I miss him every day. If he was still here about the only thing I would NOT let him have is my wife of 39 years......unless he kicked in a nice older D4 :beatsme........just kidding about the wife part :eek:ops. Were he still here he could have the whole shed!

Rick
 

Jim D

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... when my Father Died the Family were all around him, I stayed with him till ever bit of warmth had left his Body, when its bitter cold out working I put on his old Jacket, its mighty warm and keeps out the Blast well, in the pockets there is still all the bits and ends that he placed in them, shoe laces, stumpy pencil, little nuts and washers also bits of paper with his hand script on them, I get these oddments in my hand, look at them then place them back into the pocket they came from, I always seem to work harder with this jacket on my back, every time I worked with my Father it was a Nectar Day.

tc, you are a poet. I wish i'd had a father like that.
 

tctractors

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Jim D, my Father was a rough tough chap that came from the North East of the U.K. his Father was on the Jarrow March, so he was used to very hard times, he was always ready to help me and never as much as laid a hand on me unlike so many other peoples storys about their Father-Son situation, I did leave Home at 15yrs old though so when I was most trouble I was not under the same roof, but good to me he was always, like I am to my own Son.
Grandpa, knows that the Truck his Father left him is worth the same as the Jacket my Father left me, "priceless" just my jacket needs no Gas??
 

entasis

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my old man was complicated, a very intelligent but manic depressive alcoholic who was disowned by his own father when his mother died giving birth to him - he only drank on occasional binges, but when he did he hit it so hard we were terrified he'd end up dead and he came darn close on numerous occasions - tough for a kid to see
he also worked his ass off to provide for his family and would throw around the football or pitch to you til it got dark if you needed some work on hitting the curve - even though he never had a dad he learned how to be one to us
cigarettes got him a couple o' years back and I regret I didn't spend time with him before he died, 'cause even though he was a little hard to be around and we didn't share much common interest, it woulda been good for us both - my brother and he were close over their shared interest in horses (he was a trainer), and it meant a lot to both of 'em
I agree with the posters that would give the old man the shed and especially the working together part
 
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